Tips to Calm First Dance and Wedding Day Nerves

“When you dance the purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. Itโ€™s to enjoy each step along the way.โ€ย Wayne Dyer

I’m refreshing a previous post about enjoying every step of the first dance! How to prepare the mind both in advance and in the day to help you calm and focus yourself, and calm the First Dance and Wedding Day Nerves.

Here’s some tips (used by performers – true story!) to help calm your first wedding dance or wedding day nerves:

  1. Practice the power pose behind the scenes – proven to boost confidence.
  2. Roll the shoulders back and lift the chest to stand tall and proud.
  3. Find ways to relax the face – tension in the face could bring tension into the rest of the body.
  4. Find a way to help calm the mind – whether mindfulness, visualisation, meditation – whatever works for you. Perhaps find a routine to practice on the morning of your wedding to help chill the mind.
  5. Practise a breathing technique you could try in the moment – pull yourselves to the side and have a little powwow breathing pattern that you’ve tried in advance and links you to a chance to centre you into the moment.
  6. Find an essential oil blend toolkit that you can carry in your wedding day essentials kit or handbag and keep the oils near for the day – have a little sniff of to energise you, calm you, relieve a tension headache…whatever you think you’ll need!

Take a look at the Insta Reel below for some inspiration ๐Ÿ™‚

I have one thing to say:
THE BREATH IS POWERFUL!!!


First Wedding Dance or Wedding Day Nerves? I’ve got you covered.

🦋We’re emerging out of Lockdown 🤞🏻 from our hermit like existence. Like butterflies from our cocoons!🦋 So if Wedding Day or First Dance Nerves feel out of control after months of minimal human contact, I’ve got your covered.

We have a ‘road map’, so let’s create a plan to physically and mentally prepare for the first dance and for unleashing your gorgeous selves to the wider world beyond your household and soon enough, to your guests at your wedding. There’s no better way to make the final days to freedom count (whenever that may be). 

I’ve got a series of blogs to read, starting with the importance of preparing in advance for the first dance. STARTING FIRST DANCE LESSONS SOONER RATHER THAN LATER will mean the dance will become like second nature, just like walking, and the nerves will stay at the door. 

Wedding Day of First Dance Nerves? The Love of Dance has got you covered!

I can support you with:
💪🏼 Physical fitness and strength through a bespoke Pilates programme;
💃🏾First Wedding Dance lessons;
🗓 A plan for scheduling in key timeline priorities in your wedding planning,

Which in turn will:
💃🏾🕺🏾improve your self-confidence and
🧘🏻‍♀️prepare the mind to calm wedding day and first dance nerves.

Amongst so many other physical and emotional health and wellbeing benefits that come with fitness and first dance… and help you leave any anxieties behind with the Lockdown!!


Teaching A First Dance Lesson In the Wedding venue

Relaxed Luxury Summer Wedding – Featured on Rock My Wedding

FEATURED onย @rockmyweddingย blog 💃

I’m so pleased to have been involved teaching some First Wedding Dance and Hen Dance Party style movement to the gorgeous models (who were really fab!) – you may spot my little star as Flower Girl got featured – she loved it as much as I did. 🤩 I showcased all the feels of having a final first dance rehearsal or hen party in a glorious wedding venue (read here about why this is important for me), to really enhance the gorgeous experience of learning to dance together.

Take me back to this glorious hot summer day please. If anything is going to get us excited about Summer weddings, it’s this STUNNER of a relaxed luxury wedding styled shoot in the countryside organised to a ‘T’ byย Mrs T Weddingsย alongside an incredible team. The photos byย Hester Barnes Wedding Photographyย are outstanding ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

FRESH. COLOURFUL. UNIQUE. GLAMOUR.
“Almost as though it would have come out of Chanel advert”. Rock My Wedding – read the full edit here.

See who was involved in the incredible team below the images and video.

Creative Direction & Planner – @Mrs_T_Weddings
Photography/videography- @hesterbarnesphotographyandfilm
Bridal Wear – @victoria_sanders_studio
Bridal accessories- @rachelsokhalbridal
Grooms wear – @mendosuitsparis
Venue – @thecherrybarn
Florals – @chirpee.flowers
Cake – @cobi_and_coco_cakes
Rentals &decor – @locatetocreate
Makeup Consultation – @__cesca__
Hair – @maxxanderson.hair
Favours – @bombonierebymaria
Stationary – @polkadotcreationswedding
Table wear – @atouchofvintageuk
Catering – @annie_at_blackbirdcatering
Dance – @ftloveofdance
Assistant Planner @m.fioreevents
Champagne – @hoffmannandrathbone
Bridal models โ€“
@steph_dasilva
@jordan_xchelsey
@hayleymaymuirhead
@_tashangilardi
Mrs T’s team/model – @alice__clapp
Male model – roddyclarkedesign


The Love Of Dance DIY Your First Wedding Dance Manual & Online Masterclass

Maybe you’re sitting on the fence about whether or not to have first wedding dance lessons, or you’re sure you can crack the code to creating a fabulous first dance yourselves, but just don’t know where to start.

You might have even downloaded the free Find Your First Dance Music and Style Guide by now and are feeling inspired.

So I’m giving away my trade first dance choreography secrets in a step by step DIY Your First Wedding Dance Manual and LIVE Online Masterclass.

See the link here to purchase your DIY Your First Dance and Masterclass and to download the First Dance Music and Style Guide!

The guide is download-able and designed to accompany a one hour Masterclass with me! This masterclass will set you up with some clear steps to help you push forward with alllllll the choreographic tools to help you plan your very own first dance! I’ll include: how to find inspiration; how to learn some basic first dance steps; how to listen to your song and put the moves to it; some key practice tips and ways to help with first wedding dance nerves. There is so much we’ll cover – crazy huh?!

You see I think everyone can become a choreographer when we’re considering your own first dance dreams, desires and personalities!

Purchase your DIY Your First Dance and Masterclass and to download the First Dance Music and Style Guide!

And see my Instagram Reel here to show you more about me!


From First Dance Confusion to Clarity

You might have got a first dance song in mind, but donโ€™t know how to move TOGETHER to your song!

Find Your First Wedding Dance Music and Style Guide

And believe it or not many wedding planning couples struggle to find their first dance song.

Or some might love a style of dance they’ve seen and want to find a song that suits the style of dance, whilst 

You know youโ€™d like to do something a little coordinated for the first dance, but havenโ€™t got a clue how to start or what style of dance will work with the song. But this FREE ebook – Find Your First Dance Music and Style Guide, written by me, First Wedding Dance Choreographer of 10 years, is the solution for guiding wedding planning couples through the various first dance style possibilities in preparation for their first dance.

Get some clarity on what styles of dance might suit your first dance song, personalities and level of dance skills. Discover how you could take your first dance journey to a whole new level.

This is the perfect starting point even ifย youโ€™re not yet sure that first dance lessons are going to be for you. Click the link here to grab myย Find Your First Dance Music and Style Guide and get inspired today.


4 Reasons to have the Final First Wedding Dance Rehearsal in your Wedding Venue

It’s Hazel and Rich’s Wedding Anniversary, so I thought I’d share their success story and 4 reasons to have the final first wedding dance rehearsal in your wedding venue – as Hazel & Rich did at the stunning wedding venue, Cain Manor! Scroll to the bottom to see the full rehearsal.

First Dance Rehearsal
Hazel & Rich

Happy Wedding Anniversary to this lovely pair. How fabulous is their jive? So much fun! Neither of them had danced like this, let alone jived, before. They looked so chilled. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 The final rehearsal with me in their wedding venue made all the difference. This was an incredible opportunity for Hazel and Rich to get into their wedding venue, get mentally prepared for the first dance and get a feel for how it’s going to feel, in the space on their wedding day…plus a brilliant opportunity to just gush at their gorgeous wedding venue. A big pat on the back to themselves for achieving what they had planned so far for their wedding!

4 Reasons to have the Final First Dance Rehearsal in the Wedding Venue:

💜 picture themselves on the dance floor and confirm where their guests will be sitting – i.e. which way to face their dance;
💜 relieve nerves with a visualisation technique used by pro performers – see this post for suggestions to enjoy every first dance step – and to imagine how it will feel when they’re in front of their guests;
💜 have a mini ‘Dress Rehearsal’ – Try out the shoes and get used to the floor type (e.g. Is it slippery, uneven?!), and try wearing a dress/skirt similar to the wedding dress – or the underskirt;
💜 get excited about being in their glorious venue. It all starts to hit home about how special their day is going to be. 

Read this post about how it also worked for Caroline & Tim!

And here’s the gorgeous feedback from H & R:

“Thank you sooooo much Alison!!!! We really enjoyed our first dance and so did all of our guests!!! You were a fantastic teacherย and I think Rich and I are a little sad our lessons are all over now!! Thank you so much again!! Hazel and Rich xโ€


🎶’Follow Me’ by the Baseballs 🎶
I do not own the rights to this music


Meet First Wedding Dance Choreographer, Alison Brewerton

T H I S . I S . M E. Look out world ‘cos here I come!*

Thought I’d introduce myself to some new followers, the face behind The Love of Dance.

I’m Alison, First Wedding Dance Choreographer – I founded The Love of Dance 10 years ago to help wedding planning couples who didn’t know where to begin in planning something a little special for their first dance. Most of my clients over the years have been ‘non’ dancers (I hate that phrase because everyone is a dancer in their own right!) and they needed anything from learning some basic social ballroom steps (footwork), to a first dance extravaganza choreographed for them!

I’m also a Pilates Instructor and incorporate postural strength into my service in helping couples stand tall, proud and confident on their day, or generally help them strengthen and tone. (Downward Facing Dog optional!). 

I’m based in Bedfordshire but thanks to the wonder of tech I now teach couples/clients all over the UK… maybe I’ll be able to say ‘the world’ soon!

“Look out (world) ’cause here I come, 
And I’m marching on to the beat I drum, 
I’m not scared to be seen, 
I make no apologies, T H I S . I S . M E”

*Oh, and yes – I love The Greatest Showman. Slightly edited the words, but If ever there’s a power ballad for 21stC, that’s the song!

Read more about Alison here.

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