Tips to Calm First Dance and Wedding Day Nerves

“When you dance the purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way.” Wayne Dyer

I’m refreshing a previous post about enjoying every step of the first dance! How to prepare the mind both in advance and in the day to help you calm and focus yourself, and calm the First Dance and Wedding Day Nerves.

Here’s some tips (used by performers – true story!) to help calm your first wedding dance or wedding day nerves:

  1. Practice the power pose behind the scenes – proven to boost confidence.
  2. Roll the shoulders back and lift the chest to stand tall and proud.
  3. Find ways to relax the face – tension in the face could bring tension into the rest of the body.
  4. Find a way to help calm the mind – whether mindfulness, visualisation, meditation – whatever works for you. Perhaps find a routine to practice on the morning of your wedding to help chill the mind.
  5. Practise a breathing technique you could try in the moment – pull yourselves to the side and have a little powwow breathing pattern that you’ve tried in advance and links you to a chance to centre you into the moment.
  6. Find an essential oil blend toolkit that you can carry in your wedding day essentials kit or handbag and keep the oils near for the day – have a little sniff of to energise you, calm you, relieve a tension headache…whatever you think you’ll need!

Take a look at the Insta Reel below for some inspiration 🙂

I have one thing to say:
THE BREATH IS POWERFUL!!!

https://www.instagram.com/p/CMsxSMCBVFK/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

First Wedding Dance or Wedding Day Nerves? I’ve got you covered.

🦋We’re emerging out of Lockdown 🤞🏻 from our hermit like existence. Like butterflies from our cocoons!🦋 So if Wedding Day or First Dance Nerves feel out of control after months of minimal human contact, I’ve got your covered.

We have a ‘road map’, so let’s create a plan to physically and mentally prepare for the first dance and for unleashing your gorgeous selves to the wider world beyond your household and soon enough, to your guests at your wedding. There’s no better way to make the final days to freedom count (whenever that may be). 

I’ve got a series of blogs to read, starting with the importance of preparing in advance for the first dance. STARTING FIRST DANCE LESSONS SOONER RATHER THAN LATER will mean the dance will become like second nature, just like walking, and the nerves will stay at the door. 

Wedding Day of First Dance Nerves? The Love of Dance has got you covered!

I can support you with:
💪🏼 Physical fitness and strength through a bespoke Pilates programme;
💃🏾First Wedding Dance lessons;
🗓 A plan for scheduling in key timeline priorities in your wedding planning,

Which in turn will:
💃🏾🕺🏾improve your self-confidence and
🧘🏻‍♀️prepare the mind to calm wedding day and first dance nerves.

Amongst so many other physical and emotional health and wellbeing benefits that come with fitness and first dance… and help you leave any anxieties behind with the Lockdown!!


Teaching A First Dance Lesson In the Wedding venue

Relaxed Luxury Summer Wedding – Featured on Rock My Wedding

FEATURED on @rockmywedding blog 💃

I’m so pleased to have been involved teaching some First Wedding Dance and Hen Dance Party style movement to the gorgeous models (who were really fab!) – you may spot my little star as Flower Girl got featured – she loved it as much as I did. 🤩 I showcased all the feels of having a final first dance rehearsal or hen party in a glorious wedding venue (read here about why this is important for me), to really enhance the gorgeous experience of learning to dance together.

Take me back to this glorious hot summer day please. If anything is going to get us excited about Summer weddings, it’s this STUNNER of a relaxed luxury wedding styled shoot in the countryside organised to a ‘T’ by Mrs T Weddings alongside an incredible team. The photos by Hester Barnes Wedding Photography are outstanding ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

FRESH. COLOURFUL. UNIQUE. GLAMOUR.
“Almost as though it would have come out of Chanel advert”. Rock My Wedding – read the full edit here.

See who was involved in the incredible team below the images and video.

Creative Direction & Planner – @Mrs_T_Weddings
Photography/videography- @hesterbarnesphotographyandfilm
Bridal Wear – @victoria_sanders_studio
Bridal accessories- @rachelsokhalbridal
Grooms wear – @mendosuitsparis
Venue – @thecherrybarn
Florals – @chirpee.flowers
Cake – @cobi_and_coco_cakes
Rentals &decor – @locatetocreate
Makeup Consultation – @__cesca__
Hair – @maxxanderson.hair
Favours – @bombonierebymaria
Stationary – @polkadotcreationswedding
Table wear – @atouchofvintageuk
Catering – @annie_at_blackbirdcatering
Dance – @ftloveofdance
Assistant Planner @m.fioreevents
Champagne – @hoffmannandrathbone
Bridal models –
@steph_dasilva
@jordan_xchelsey
@hayleymaymuirhead
@_tashangilardi
Mrs T’s team/model – @alice__clapp
Male model – roddyclarkedesign


Valentine’s Date Night with a Dance Lesson Difference

VALENTINES DATE NIGHT IS SORTED

How about a little romantic Valentine’s gift, a break from the new norm and groundhog day, or a Lockdown project with your beau.

💍 💜 You might even be planning a valentines proposal and looking for some inspiration! 💜💍

Here’s a Valentines treat from me!

3 hours of private online Valentine’s Date Night Dance lessons for £99 (Usually £132) or one hour for £35 (Usually £45).

First hour could be taken on Valentine’s Day, 14th February throughout the day, or to suit your date night plans, subject to availability, and then schedule in the remaining hours in following weeks.

Choose from some gorgeous romantic dance styles or tell me your favourite song and I’ll tell you which style will suit your song:
💃🏻Foxtrot
🕺🏽Waltz
💃🏾Salsa
🕺🏾Rumba
💃🏾Jive

It’s not going to be the date night we’d usually dream of, but we might as well make it a unique Valentine’s to remember to tell the kids about one day!
#ForTheLoveOfDance

💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
*Tcs & Cs Apply


How can I find myself if I can’t see the wood for the trees?

Sometimes finding a balance between coping with the strain of daily life, or a busy professional world, whilst (as I write in Jan ’21) homeschooling, and then trying to find quality time for fitness, socialising (yes, it will be a thing of the future), or just to be alone with no care in the world just doesn’t seem achievable. Read to the bottom to claim a free trial Pilates session with me!

Be Kind To Yourself & Shine 2021

I’m a pilates instructor, dance teacher, and I have also been a personal assistant for the past 20 years helping busy professional people streamline their lives so they have more time to think strategically, creatively and freely. Transfer this to streamlining lifestyle, homelife, and perhaps there are ways that we can find more time in the day, the week…and find the budget, to be able to have more carefree ME TIME: be able to afford more fitness  – being motivated by a fitness professional to help you achieve goals; to fulfil passions; or for activities, not just for ourselves, but to do with family or friends…

As a fitness instructor I quite often meet their inability to joining in my sessions of: ‘I don’t have enough time’. ‘I can’t afford it.’ And this makes me sad, people! So I got thinking, how can I help my clients overcome these ‘barriers to participation’, and also to remove the mental blocks which will enable them to ultimately attend my pilates sessions, where I take pride in my regular clients’ feeding back that they are so much calmer, or stronger for whatever physical demands of parenting requires? So here we go:

Here are my 3 top tips to work towards streamlining your lifestyle, including:

1. Planning with the household – shared accountability.

A problem shared is a problem halved. What can you share with the people you live with.  Some of us might take on chores/tasks without questioning whether we should be doing it, or if they could be shared with a child. If the child is younger, perhaps start planting the seed of helping around the home now…and make it fun or rewarding! Planning with the family and letting them have input might also increase the chance of their ‘buy in’ to sticking with their responsibilities – hopefully eventually becoming an automated behaviour without your input!

2. Get organised

A weekly planner that is filled out at the start of every week – could be electronic, perhaps on a shared, non-editable tablet, and printable – or it could be a wipeable weekly board displayed in one place in the household. Perhaps a 10 minutes Sunday powow with the family to work out who is going where, what needs to be done, what homework needs to be in, what childcare is needed for you to achieve your Me Time, and most essentially WHERE YOU WILL FIT IN YOUR ME TIME! Connecting organisational digital apps together too is also a brilliant way of planning – Office 365 is great to track tasks, emails, your to do list, prioritising, scanning important letters from school that you keep losing around the house.

3. Financial Planning

Get budgeting – plan your goals you need to spend on – it could be getting a 1:1 fitness instructor to motivate you to your goals.  it could be going kayaking and paying for a membership for a club. And it could be as longer term such as a weekend away with friends.  But plan the budget so you know there’s no additional barrier to getting your me time in.  It could also be something you’re saving towards with the family – something fun for you to do together – me time isn’t just about the time on your own – it’s also making space in your life fo care-free time with everyone, without thinking you should be doing something else.

I’m not generalising in my advice, as we all have different circumstances and home dynamics, and I know some of you will have streamlining your household down to a fine art. My tips are by no means the complete solution.  But I also know the struggles of, for example some single parents, and even if a small part of my suggestions can be implemented, hopefully it’s planting the seed for the chance of a marvellous future, where regular, perhaps even daily time to fulfil passions and hobbies, or sitting quietly alone for more than 5 minutes is a thing.

If you’d like a FREE trial online group Pilates session with Dancing Mama Fitness, complete the questionnaire below, so I can get to know more about the lifestyles of the ‘audience’ I’m speaking to!

Peace and love.


21 Days to KickStart a Healthy, Fit & Mindful New Year

  • Do you need some all round health and wellbeing TLC?
  • Has 2020 left you feeling just meh, stressed and mentally drained?
  • Do you want to know how to strengthen the immune system with foods that we eat?
  • Have you lost motivation for fitness and self care and need some kick start motivation?
  • Do you need to revive your lust for life?
Be Kind To Yourself & Shine 2021 - Health & Fitness Motivation Challenge

Let’s face it, 2020 has been a pretty challenging year, but what if it’s given us a gift? What if it’s given us a fabulous new vision, helped us to re-evaluate what is important in our lives and given an eye opening wake-up call of what’s got to give.

Can you say in 2020 you gave yourself a break, were kind to yourself and allowed yourself to step into your power?

Whether you answered ‘yes’ to the above and now need some 2021 motivation to elevate into that immense power, or if you answered ‘no’ and have acknowledged that something’s gotta give, we’ve got a 21 day plan to give you a guilt free opportunity to be kind to yourself and Shine into 2021: 4-24 January 2021!

Join Be Kind To Yourself & Shine 2021 Here

We’ll be running this for FREE, in exchange for a donation to our chosen charity: The NEED Project, Bedfordshire.

Your hosts will be Alison (@DancingMamaFitness) and Sandi (@SandiRatz PT) – fitness and lifestyle professionals, focussing on prioritising health, balance in wellbeing and passions within busy lives, not just for 21 days, but for longevity.

Sandi and Alison have teamed up with other experts in the holistic wellness industry bringing a whole array of motivational, inspirational and down right life changing knowledge to you, including self Reiki, EFT, self massage and meditation – survival toolkit in times where we can’t always see practitioners face to face, learn how from home!

Throughout the 21 days Sandi and Alison will bring daily inspiration, free fitness and mindset sessions and host parties from Tropic Skincare, DoTerra essential oils, and Juice Plus+ plant based nutrition, introducing some gorgeous, ethically chosen health and wellbeing products to set your 2021 goals off with some quality products.

There will be weekly giveaways, freebies from all experts involved, and two incredible prizes and the end for the winner of a prize draw and the most engaged throughout the 21 days.

Finish the 21 Days feeling Fitter, Focussed and Fabulous. You’re Welcome!


The Love Of Dance DIY Your First Wedding Dance Manual & Online Masterclass

Maybe you’re sitting on the fence about whether or not to have first wedding dance lessons, or you’re sure you can crack the code to creating a fabulous first dance yourselves, but just don’t know where to start.

You might have even downloaded the free Find Your First Dance Music and Style Guide by now and are feeling inspired.

So I’m giving away my trade first dance choreography secrets in a step by step DIY Your First Wedding Dance Manual and LIVE Online Masterclass.

See the link here to purchase your DIY Your First Dance and Masterclass and to download the First Dance Music and Style Guide!

The guide is download-able and designed to accompany a one hour Masterclass with me! This masterclass will set you up with some clear steps to help you push forward with alllllll the choreographic tools to help you plan your very own first dance! I’ll include: how to find inspiration; how to learn some basic first dance steps; how to listen to your song and put the moves to it; some key practice tips and ways to help with first wedding dance nerves. There is so much we’ll cover – crazy huh?!

You see I think everyone can become a choreographer when we’re considering your own first dance dreams, desires and personalities!

Purchase your DIY Your First Dance and Masterclass and to download the First Dance Music and Style Guide!

And see my Instagram Reel here to show you more about me!


From First Dance Confusion to Clarity

You might have got a first dance song in mind, but don’t know how to move TOGETHER to your song!

Find Your First Wedding Dance Music and Style Guide

And believe it or not many wedding planning couples struggle to find their first dance song.

Or some might love a style of dance they’ve seen and want to find a song that suits the style of dance, whilst 

You know you’d like to do something a little coordinated for the first dance, but haven’t got a clue how to start or what style of dance will work with the song. But this FREE ebook – Find Your First Dance Music and Style Guide, written by me, First Wedding Dance Choreographer of 10 years, is the solution for guiding wedding planning couples through the various first dance style possibilities in preparation for their first dance.

Get some clarity on what styles of dance might suit your first dance song, personalities and level of dance skills. Discover how you could take your first dance journey to a whole new level.

This is the perfect starting point even if you’re not yet sure that first dance lessons are going to be for you. Click the link here to grab my Find Your First Dance Music and Style Guide and get inspired today.


4 Reasons to have the Final First Wedding Dance Rehearsal in your Wedding Venue

It’s Hazel and Rich’s Wedding Anniversary, so I thought I’d share their success story and 4 reasons to have the final first wedding dance rehearsal in your wedding venue – as Hazel & Rich did at the stunning wedding venue, Cain Manor! Scroll to the bottom to see the full rehearsal.

First Dance Rehearsal
Hazel & Rich

Happy Wedding Anniversary to this lovely pair. How fabulous is their jive? So much fun! Neither of them had danced like this, let alone jived, before. They looked so chilled. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 The final rehearsal with me in their wedding venue made all the difference. This was an incredible opportunity for Hazel and Rich to get into their wedding venue, get mentally prepared for the first dance and get a feel for how it’s going to feel, in the space on their wedding day…plus a brilliant opportunity to just gush at their gorgeous wedding venue. A big pat on the back to themselves for achieving what they had planned so far for their wedding!

4 Reasons to have the Final First Dance Rehearsal in the Wedding Venue:

💜 picture themselves on the dance floor and confirm where their guests will be sitting – i.e. which way to face their dance;
💜 relieve nerves with a visualisation technique used by pro performers – see this post for suggestions to enjoy every first dance step – and to imagine how it will feel when they’re in front of their guests;
💜 have a mini ‘Dress Rehearsal’ – Try out the shoes and get used to the floor type (e.g. Is it slippery, uneven?!), and try wearing a dress/skirt similar to the wedding dress – or the underskirt;
💜 get excited about being in their glorious venue. It all starts to hit home about how special their day is going to be. 

Read this post about how it also worked for Caroline & Tim!

And here’s the gorgeous feedback from H & R:

“Thank you sooooo much Alison!!!! We really enjoyed our first dance and so did all of our guests!!! You were a fantastic teacher and I think Rich and I are a little sad our lessons are all over now!! Thank you so much again!! Hazel and Rich x”


🎶’Follow Me’ by the Baseballs 🎶
I do not own the rights to this music


5 Tips to Smash Your Winter Workout

Who’s ready for the dark mornings and even darker nights??

Yeah – me neither. Doesn’t always inspire a workout does it – especially one outdoors.

But I prefer workout in the open, and I’m trying to work out how to make the best still of outdoor workouts. Here’s my 5 tips for fitness motivation whilst smashing the winter workout blues:

1. Get kitted out

My best purchase of all time was a Uni-Qlo calf length ‘duvet coat’ as I call it, which I found when I was pregnant in the sales. I could just about fit my daughter underneath in the baby carrier in later years when we went out for our long walks in whatever the elements were throwing at us. I still love it now for those cosy winter walks – I wore it out for a walk yesterday in the crazy driving rain and felt both Snug and Smug at the same time.

Will you need to be warm? Dry? Need certain footwear to match the terrain or gear to match the activity – balaclava underneath a cycle helmet or raincoat with a peak in the hood to keep the rain off your face?

Granted some of the fitness gear can be pricey, but catch the right time of year and you can bag some bargains. That all said, some of the high street brands have their own fitness ranges these days – I quite often buy from Decathalon – it’s reasonably priced, and their clothing lasts me for a good year too!

2. Choose the location wisely.

Start planning some locations that aren’t too muddy – gravel pathways are usually a good shout for cycling, running or walking with good drainage. On road, or concrete pathways good for cycling – I’m not a fan of jogging on concrete as I used to suffer from shin splints – make sure you’ve got good running shoes for harder surfaces. Or what fitness instructors can you find online to save you leaving the house? I’ve been teaching my pilates clients online and it’s definitely helped out for those who have been shielding…and now for those who quite enjoy staying in for their workout.

3. Choose the time to work for you…

An increase in home working has meant we can work a little more flexibly, with some employers becoming more relaxed, and self employed peeps can also arrange their working day and be kinder to themselves to create the space in the diary for a lunchtime workout – some daylight and fresh air to help revive for the afternoon has huge benefits…unless a workout leaves you wanting to snooze!). Timeblock the week so you can make it happen – and sometimes paying for a course will motivate you to stick at it. Quite often with slightly cheaper rates as an incentive.

By far my winning workout situation is when I build the workout in to a part of my existing routine – lately I’ve been cycling my daughter to nursery and doing a route around the houses on the way home to clock up some miles!

4. …which leads me to strategic planning!

Make sure the type of fitness is relevant for the time of day. An invigorating, power workout in the morning or earlier on in the day will keep us mentally focussed, whilst a chilled Yoga session later in the day may help you to sleep, clear the mind and wind down. Different strokes for different folks of course so find out what works for you!

5. Workout with other people.

Nothing like some good motivation from working with a partner or a group of friends. Make fitness social. If you’re not in each others bubbles, fair enough you may not be able to do any contact sports, but team games where you can socially distance are just fun and quite often lead to a social life too. I wanted to join a rowing or kayaking club – might have to find a daytime or weekend club in winter(!), but the clubhouses quite often also have social nights.

Hope this has inspired you to research the options and talk to others about what they’re doing or enjoy. If you can get through the winter without the dark nights as an excuse not to do it, you should fall in to an easy year round workout routine